Forward,
Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your
Life Use Fear, Obligation,
and Guilt to Manipulate You.
NY: Harper-Collins Publishers, 1997.
Gunderson,
John G. Borderline Personality Disorder 1984
Gunderson,
John G. and Perry D., Ph.D. Hoffman. Understanding
and Treating Borderline
Personality Disorder: A Guide for
Professionals and Families
Gunderson,
John G. Borderline Personality Disorder: A Clinical
Guide
Kreger, Randi, with James Paul Shirely. The Stop Walking on
Eggshells Workbook Review.
Kreger, Randi, and Kim A. Willams-Justensen.
Love and Loathing:
Protecting Your Mental
Health and Legal Rights When
Your Partner Has Borderline Personality Disorder.
Kreger, Randi is currently working
on a new book. It's
an
evolution of her thinking since she wrote SWOE in
1998.
It contains a discussion of 3 clusters of persons
with
BPD. First, the classic mental health picture as
seen
in I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me. Second, is the
high
functioning person whose BPD illness is hidden
to
all but their family. It is very likely that a majority of
people
with BPD are in this cluster. Third is a mixture of
one
and two. These are not closed clusters because
there
is some overlap.
Kreisman, Jerold. I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the
Borderline Personality
This
classic focuses on the low functioning borderline
personality
disorder. It also does a good job of picking
apart
the emotional and psychological development
from
infancy on up, which has helps one understand where
a lot
of this stuff comes from. The book also introduces
the
reader to the SET theory (sympathy - empathy - truth)
as
a way to cope.
The
discussion of BP's and organized religion helps one to
understand
how the rigid splitting common to all of them
causes
them to often gravitate toward legalistic churches,
albeit
only to take up legalism as another club in the arsenal
of
BP weapons. Yes, people with BPD can be and often are
saved.
However, they often use the Bible as a weapon of
judgment,
condemnation and criticism, not of grace,
reconciliation,
and love.
Lawson, Christine
Ann, Ph.D. and Jason Aronson. Understanding the
Borderline Mother:
Helping Her Children Transcend the
Intense, Unpredictable,
and Volatile Relationship
Dealing
with this mental illness within a family calls for
wise
and firm boundaries. This book offers practical
insights
and instruction where Stop Walking on Eggshells
only
touches on lightly. The two books together make
an
awesome pair. This book is quoted at length in the
workbook
for SWOE. It is not only descriptive of the
four
types
of these mothers but also prescriptive in
how to
relate
with each type within healthy boundaries.
Lineham, Marsha M. Cognative-Behavioral
Treatment of
Borderline Personality
Disorder. New
York: Guilford
Press, 1993
Lineham, Marsha M. Skills
Training Manual for Treating
Borderline Personality Disorder
(Paperback)
Mason, Paul T., Randi Kreger, and Larry J. Siever.
Stop Walking on
Eggshells; Coping When
Someone You Care about Has
Borderline Personality Disorder New Harbinger Pubns (July
1998)
While
this book is written specifically for dealing with
one
mental illness, I find its principles solid and
transferable
to help anyone to stop walking
on
eggshells around them and reclaim their own life.
Melville, Lynn. Breaking Free From Boomerang Love:
Getting
Unhooked From Borderline
Personality Disorder
Relationships
Miller, Alice.
The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the
True Self.
This book could also have been named The Trauma of
the Gifted Child. This sort of home environment often
produces people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Moskovitz, Richard. Lost in
the Mirror: An Inside Look at the
Borderline Personality Disorder. Dallas, Texas: Taylor
Publishing Company, 2001.
Like
I Hate You Don’t Leave Me, it emphasizes low-
functioning
borderlines.
Oates, Wayne
E. Behind the Masks: Personality Disorders in
Religious Behavior. Louisville:
Westminster, 1987. Review.
Pate, C.
Marvin, and Sheryl L. Pate. Behind the Masks: Personality
Disorders in the
Church. Nashville: Broadman & Holman,
2000. Review.
Porr, Valerie. Marsha M Linehan
(forward), When Someone You
Love Has Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Repair
the Relationship
Borderline
Personality Disorder (BPD) is among the most difficult
to
treat and debilitating of psychological problems. Even though
BPD
is far rarer than major anxiety and mood disorders, it
accounts
for more than 10 percent of all psychiatric outpatient
visits
and more than 25 percent of all psychiatric cases that
require
hospitalization. And, individuals with BPD have a greater
than
70 percent chance of attempting or committing suicide.
With
statistics like these, it's easy to imagine how difficult it is
to
be a family member, friend, or partner of someone with BPD.
Maintaining
a safe and positive relationship despite BPD requires
specialized
information and skills, the information that readers
will
find in this much-needed book. "Loving Someone with
Borderline
Personality Disorder" offers readers new ways of
communicating, developing trust and repairing damaged
relationships
with a person with BPD. These methods are
adapted
from Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT),a revolutionary
new
psychotherapy that research suggests is the most effective means of treating this disorder. The techniques presented in the book all start from a position of compassion, with the acceptance and validation of individuals with BPD. These attitudes work to foster an atmosphere for the BPD sufferer that will motivate him or her to seek treatment, to work at the treatment they've already undertaken, and to truly believe that they can get better.
It
tells the story of how a young boy learns to understand and cope with his mother’s BPD illness.
Roth, Kimberlee and Freda B. Friedman. Surviving a Borderline
Parent: How to Heal
Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust
Spradlin, Scott. Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life: How
Dialectical Behavior
Therapy Can Put You in Control (New
Harbinger Self-Help
Reviews
claim this book make Lineham’s Cognative-Behavioral
techniques
both understandable and useful to people who do
not
have a PhD. in Psychology. It is recommended for both
consumers
with BPD and those with bipolar.
Tinman, Ozzie. One Way Ticket to Kansas:
Caring about Someone
with Borderline Personality
Disorder and Finding a
Healthy You
Walker, Anthony.
The Siren's Dance : My Marriage to a
Borderline: A Case Study
Rodale Books (September 20, 2003)
Randi Kreger: “For six years, I have maintained several support
groups on the web for people who have a borderline partner.
Mr. Walker's book tells a very familiar story--ignoring red flags
in particular. Since most non-BP partners need immense
validation, this book will validate your experiences so you will
not feel so uncertain and alone if you have a BP partner.”
Weiser, Conrad. Healers: Harmed & Harmful. Minneapolis:
Fortress Press, 1994.
A psychologist
and Administrator Systems Therapy and
Consultation
Services in Allentown, PA,
Dr. Conrad has
written
a very helpful book from his twenty years of
experience
with clergy and churches. What he has to
say
about clergy who are narcissistic, compulsive,
depressed,
dependent, or borderline and helping them
is very valuable.
Winkler,
Kathy. Randi Kreger. Hope for Parents: Helping Your
Borderline Son or Daughter Without Sacrificing
Your
Family or Yourself.
Zakiya, Njemile. A Peek
Inside The Goo: Depression & The
Borderline Personality
"This
book is for friends and family.”
Bipolar
Duke, Patty and Gloria Hochman. A Brilliant Madness: Living with
Manic Depressive
Illness Bantam,
1997, 368 pages.
This
is the actor's in-depth exposition of her mental illness
and
the way she has dealt with it. Interestingly, she seems
to
be one of the exceptions to the rule that people with
mental
illness generally deny, at least at first, that anything
could
be wrong. Ms. Duke's reaction to being told of a diagnosis
of
manic depression was that it "finally had a name!" and could
be
dealt with. She was, however, in her late 30's (if I remember
correctly...
could be wrong) when the diagnosis came and had
been
through many tumultuous years prior. She is, however,
one
of the persons with bipolar disorder who religiously takes her medication, and can't imagine her life without lithium.
Duke, Patty and Kenneth Turan. Call Me Anna: The Autobiography
of Patty Duke Bantam, 1988, 320 pages.
Autobiography
of Oscar and Emmy award winning actor Patty Duke, this
one details her whole life, including her diagnosis with bipolar disorder.
Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and
Madness Vintage, 1997, 240 pages.
This
is the autobiography to read of bipolar disorder.
Kay
Jamison is also a co-author of the definitive medical
text:
Manic Depressive Illness. A victim of manic
depressive
illness herself, An Unquiet Mind is her
"outing"
from the closet of mental illness. Though
not
a psychiatrist (medical doctor), she is a
teaching
professor of psychiatry at the Johns
Hopkins University School of Medicine.
McReynolds, James D.Min., Psy.D. DANCING WITH BIPOLAR
BEARS: LIVING IN JOY
DESPITE ILLNESS
Chronic
joy from someone who's been there, "Dancing
With
Bipolar Bears"is the remarkable story of success
despite
a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. James "Jimmy"
McReynolds
was a rising star young minister when bipolar
illness
was diagnosed in his senior year of college.
In
Dancing With Bipolar Bears Dr. McReynolds shares
his
remarkable story and offers unsolicited advice from
someone
who's been there and is still there. If you have
an
illness, this book is your tool for shaping the life
you
have continued to envision but never thought possible
McReynolds,
James, D.Min., Psy.D. PASSIONATE JOY:
BUILDING A WEALTH OF JOY IN A WORLD
STARVED FOR LOVE
Passionate
Joy connects the psychological and spiritual
understanding
of our least discussed human emotion.
This
book reflects the dawn of a revolutionary approach
to
living. Norman Vincent Peale anointed Jim McReynolds
as
minister of joy to the world. The most important
characteristic
of a minister of joy is humility. This
book
teaches people the purpose of our lives is to
create
an atmosphere for joy and miracles to happen.
Life
is difficult. Building a wealth of joy enables us to know
happiness.
Readers will enter the joy of the Lord as
they
reflect upon their own joy.
