Updated
03/10/08
1). Cloud, Henry. Changes That Heal:
How to Understand Your Past to Ensure a
Healthier Future. Grand Rapids, MI:
Zondervan, 1990.
This book and its workbook will lead the reader
through the dynamics of maturing in healthy togetherness with others and healthy separation from others.
2). Cloud,
Henry. Changes That Heal Workbook: How to Understand Your Past to
Ensure a Healthier Future. Grand Rapids, MI:
Zondervan, 1994.
3). Cloud, Henry, John Townsend. Boundaries
In Marriage. Grand
Rapids, MI:
Zondervan, 1999.
This book will give you specific guidance
on what healthy boundaries in a marriage are and are not.
4). Cloud,
Henry, John Townsend. Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No,
To Take Control on Your Life.
Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan,
1992.
This is a basic introductory book to the whole
idea of boundaries.
5). Cloud, Henry, John Townsend. Boundaries Workbook: When to Say
Yes, When
to Say No, To Take Control of Your
Life.Grand Rapids,MI:Zondervan,1995.
6). Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life
Use Fear,
Obligation, and
Guilt to Manipulate You. NY: Harper-Collins Publishers,
1997.
7). Hemfelt, Robert, Frank Minirth,
Paul Meier. Love is a Choice. Nashville: Thomas
Nelson Publishers, 1989.
8). Hemfelt, Robert, Frank Minirth, Paul Meier, Deborah Newman, Brian Newman.
Love Is A Choice Workbook. Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers,1991.
These two books address the co-dependency that
many family members and friends of the mentally ill struggle with.
9). Kreger, Randi,
with James Paul Shirely. The Stop Walking on Eggshells
Workbook Review.
10). Kreger, Randi,and Kim A. Willams-Justensen. Love and Loathing: Protecting
Your Mental Health and Legal Rights
When Your Partner Has
Borderline Personality Disorder.
11). Lawson, Christine Ann, Ph.D. and Jason Aronson. Understanding the Borderline
Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend
the Intense, Unpredictable, and
Volatile Relationship
Dealing with this mental illness within a family
calls for wise and firm boundaries. This book offers practical insights and instruction where Stop Walking on Eggshells
only touches on lightly. The two books together make an awesome pair. This book is quoted at length in the workbook for
SWOE.
I’ve used this book in counseling with adult
children of a “Mommy Dearest” type. It is not only descriptive of the four types of these mothers but also prescriptive
in how to relate with each type within healthy boundaries. Some may find a surprising insight about fibromyalgia and other
auto-immune deficiency diseases in this book.
12). Mason, Paul T., Randi Kreger, and Larry J. Siever.
Stop Walking on
Eggshells; Coping When Someone You
Care about Has
Borderline Personality Disorder New Harbinger Pubns (July 1998)
While this book is written specifically for dealing with one mental illness,
I find its principles solid and transferable to help anyone to stop walking
on eggshells around them and reclaim their own life.
13). Melville,
Lynn. Breaking Free From Boomerang Love: Getting
Unhooked From Borderline Personality Disorder Relationships
14). Roth, Kimberlee and Freda B. Friedman. Surviving a Borderline
Parent: How to
Heal Your Childhood Wounds &
Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self Esteem.
Oakland,
CA: New Harbinger Publishers, Inc., 2003.Review.
15). Tinman, Ozzie. One Way Ticket to Kansas: Caring about Someone
with Borderline Personality Disorder
and Finding a Healthy You
16) Whitfield, Charles L. Boundaries and Relationships.
Deerfield, FL: Health
Communications, Inc., 1993.
This is a very thorough book on much
more than just personal boundaries. (my favorite!!!)
